What Makes a Choice a Good One?

“Make a good choice!”

We say it all the time. But what does that actually mean to a child?

When kids are told to make good choices without being taught what “good” means in different contexts, they often guess—or rely on trial and error. Responsible decision-making is a skill that needs scaffolding, examples, and self-reflection.

Reframing “Good Choices”

Instead of defining “good” as what keeps them out of trouble, help kids think of it as what aligns with:

• Their values

• Their goals

• The feelings of others

• Long-term consequences

It’s not about perfection—it’s about growth.

The 3-Question Strategy

Teach kids to ask themselves:

1. How will this affect me later?

2. How will this affect others?

3. What do I feel proud of choosing?

These questions build a decision-making filter. With practice, students start to internalize them.

Situational Role-Plays

Use simple, real-world situations to practice the skill:

• “Your friend is being teased, but you’re scared to speak up.”

• “You’re tempted to lie about finishing your homework.”

Talk through:

• What are your options?

• Which one feels right—and why?

• What might be hard about choosing that?

You’ll be surprised how insightful students can be when given the space to reflect.

Tie It to Self-Esteem

Making thoughtful decisions reinforces a child’s self-worth. It shows them:

• They can trust themselves

• They have control over their life

• They are capable of solving problems

Helpful Resource

A great way to support this process is by using tools that help students see the choices they have. The Problems and Solutions Conflict Resolution Worksheets in my store let students explore realistic social situations and practice responsible thinking.

They're perfect for group work or even take-home activities with families.

Final Thought

Responsible choices aren’t always the easiest or most obvious ones. But when students are taught to reflect, empathize, and consider outcomes, they become more thoughtful and confident—both in and out of the classroom.